Shivani Berry
You can’t trust your initial reaction to feedback. Defensive responses are driven by common fears about our own competence, and fear is a powerful distorter of the messages we hear.
Content: Quotation | Author: Shivani Berry | Source: First Round Review | Subjects: Career, Personal Development
Shivani Berry
“Feedback” is a loaded term. Not only do you tighten up when you ask for “feedback,” so does the feedback giver. Swapping it out for “advice” is more inviting and indicates you value your colleague’s counsel. Instead of saying “Can I have some feedback on what I could have done better?” say “Do you have any advice on how I can improve on X?”
Content: Quotation | Author: Shivani Berry | Source: First Round Review | Subjects: Career, Management, Personal Development
Shivani Berry
Lots of advice centers around getting better at giving feedback to others, but we rarely focus on how to attract useful feedback about ourselves — even though it’s in our own best interest to do so. What’s more is we often unintentionally repel the rare feedback that does come our way by getting defensive or shutting down.
Knowing what other people think about you can be … [ Read more ]
Content: Quotation | Author: Shivani Berry | Source: First Round Review | Subjects: Career, Personal Development